When Will the Pain Go Away?

Surviving infidelity means facing the pain and agony of discovery, one of the worst experiences of any thoughtful alive person.

A primary question in surviving an affair is initially, How long will this pain last?

I’ve created a video posing this question below.

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Surviving an Affair: Healing Shifts

Surviving an affair means a person will make internal shifts in the way one thinks about him/her self and the spouse.

Perspectives will change. This change may be an “aha” moment or may emerge over time.

These are often life-altering shifts that stay with a person for a lifetime and open new avenues of awareness, joy and personal productivity.

Here’s what one person says:

It (reading Break Free From the Affair) gave me a wider perspective on the problem, made me realize there was nothing wrong with me, personally, and allowed me to extract myself from the predictable and destructive cycle of questioning (seeing to punish and bolster my own confidence, rather than get to the real problem. Once I realized the problem and mistake were hers, it helped me get a grip on things and move forward. It also helped me to see that my marriage was something worth saving.

Suviving the Affair: What it Takes

Surviving the affair often seems like a daunting task upon the first few days of discovery. And, it is.

The affair hits below the belt and we are shocked, confused, etc.

Read what these two people did to survive the affair:

It has now been 6 months. After the dust settled I asked all the questions I need answers to. We decided we wanted to stay married & sought counseling right away. I made certain rules for him to abide by. He became totally transparent. I had access to everything I needed, computer, cell phone, ALL credit & bank statements. He stayed home, unless I knew exactly where he was. This started to restore the trust I had lost. We opened up more & talked more. This started the healing process. We began having “dates” & doing more together as a couple. If anything, this whole earth shattering experience has made us closer, we appreciate each other more than we have in years. The pain remains, but gets better every day. There is hope and a way to survive.

It was a week before I gave birth to our first child when I found out. It was extremely painful and having a new baby to take care of was the only thing that kept me grounded and able to function.