Recovering from Infidelity

Recovering from infidelity is often a long process which stirs within powerful feelings, thoughts and images that go to the core of who on is.

These three people share part of their journey and questions:

Case Study #1:

1. How has this E-course helped you change the way you feel, think and act as you face infidelity. Give examples, if you can.

Knowing the type of battle i am facing, really put my mind into perspective. The first 2 weeks i was suffering terribly on what could have gone wrong with me, but this e-course really helped me enlighten that i may have done something wrong within the relationship, it was never and it will never be my fault that my husband had made bad judgments.

2. What unanswered questions do you have at this point as you cope with infidelity?

my husband has had the affair for 2 years before i found out and at this point i was still wondering and would like to understand who he was during those 2 years, why did he stayed on for 2 years more with me, why he just he didn’t let me go from the moment he knew that his relationship with the OW was getting serious – why did he deprived me of the love & affection that i needed – it was so selfish of him. Yet, across all that had happen – i still love my husband.

Case Study #2:

1. How has this E-course helped you change the way you feel, think and act as you face infidelity. Give examples, if you can.

It has definitely helped me gather my thoughts, calm down and think rationally. It has been very helpful to read of situations, feelings, reactions and behaviors that have fit my own situation so well, and gives me hope that they can be worked through constructively.

2. What unanswered questions do you have at this point as you cope with infidelity?

My wife was never a dishonest person, financial pressures and the hum drum of homemaking combining with the emergence of the old high school sweetheart created the perfect storm. Her relationship with him although limited pretty much to an ’emotional affair’ has changed her significantly and this is difficult to deal with.

Case Study #3″

1. How has this E-course helped you change the way you feel, think and act as you face infidelity. Give examples, if you can.

It has made me realize that I am important and that I did not do this to our marriage. Whatever was the cause of it…I now know that I need to be concerned with myself and to never let someone have such a hold over me.I am my own person and not just “his wife.”I am going to utilize this wake-up call in my life to benefit me and to eventually be at the point where I will feel that this was a “good thing” that made our marriage even stronger.

2. What unanswered questions do you have at this point as you cope with infidelity?

I know my husband had an affair. There is no question about that. I have lots of proof that it happened.But…..he has not formally admitted it to me. Which bothers me. I know that it has stopped because I can tell. He is being a perfect husband and “friend.” MY QUESTION: Will I be able to heal from this w/o a confession? Can the trust be repaired when he won’t confess???????

Infidelity Recovery Turning Points

When does the pain and agony of infidelity and extramarital affairs begin to turn around? When does recovery and healing the marriage after infidelity begin?

I posed this question to my readers. Here are some responses:

The turning point in my recovery was after 2 years when a personal tragedy struck our family and my husband was supportive and wonderful and I could truly trust that he had made a mistake (we all do) and that he was a good person and worth the chance to forgive and go on with our lives.

Turning point was that once I recovered from the shock I was able to sever the relationship as for me there was no respect left. Your materials provided some insight into infidelity issues and even though there are many reasons for infidelity men and women must realize that wanting to ‘have your cake and eating it too’ will inevitably cause some serious digestive problems!!!

The initial turning point for me was finding your book. I felt so lost and so alone. My mind raced constantly searching for answers. I just wanted to stop thinking…that’s it I wanted my mind to rest. It didn’t until I found your book. I feared that my feelings were not justified. The feeling of loss, the loss of the life that I once knew. The checking up on him so many, many things. I first found your book roughly 3 years ago. I kept my husbands affair to myself. I had no one that I wanted to share it with as I felt shame. Shame in the fact that I decided to stay with my husband. The book and your newsletter were a sense of relief for me and confirmation of my feelings that others before me had felt. I didn’t feel as alone anymore. I could consult, confidentially it lessened my pain so I could begin healing.

Infidelity Recovery from a Predator Affair

Eric’s wife succumbs to the seduction of a sexual predator and two times a year engaged in intense “kinky” sex with the man.

The “affair” is now over.

How do Eric and his wife recover?

How can Eric stop condemning himself for “missing it?”

How can Eric understand and accept her kinky sex with the other person when Eric never experienced that with her?

Learn about the 5 recovery areas for Eric.

Listen to my live coaching session and personal review of the session with Eric.

Also, read responses from listeners and readers, such as:

1. If Eric’s situation is/was similar to yours, list 2 things you said or did that were helpful.

My spouse also had a “sleazy” type of affair – his was more emotional though. I think that I would accept his blaming of me for a short while just to get him to keep talking. I knew that it was a way for him to justify what he did After awhile I then rebutted and let him know the way that I felt things really were and that with a few exceptions I was not going to take the blame.

2. From your personal experience and what you have learned about infidelity, what 2 suggestions would you give to Eric?

He is much further along than me, but I would suggest that he takes good care of himself. It is too easy to let yourself be last on the list when your mind is constantly on the situation. I might suggest that he keeps a diary or notes. Seemed like once I had everything down I did not feel the need to keep rerunning everything in my mind over and over again.

3. List a couple benefits you received from listening to this tape.

I realized that it is possible to be TOTALLY duped by a spouse – I do not feel so dumb for not having a clue.

For more information on Eric, please go to: http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/lasercoaching13-eric.htm