If you know my material, you know that I stress the importance of understanding the kind of affair facing you, if you expect to make intelligent and effective interventions for your self and your relationship.

Well, this is confirmed by my colleagues.

I just came across a copy of the Family Therapy Magazine with this issue devoted to infidelity.

An article by Adrian Blow, states:

“The types of infidelities are critical for clinicians to consider as they treat couples, and it is essential for clinician to conduct rigorous and care assessment of specific infidelity behavior, frequency, with what kinds of partner, and meaning of the behavior in the relationship. This is necessary because, for example, sexual addiction related infidelities (my affair #2: “I Can’t Say No”) require a different treatment focus than do love infidelities (e.g. long-term relationship), or opportunity relationships (e.g., one-night stand when an unexpected opportunity to cheat arises).”

My “love” – I don’t use the word ‘love’ to describe an affair, love not part of the equation – affairs would coincide more with “I Fell out of Love and just love being in love” and “I Want to be Close to Someone, but can’t stand intimacy.

Knowing the type of affair is no only crucial for a clinician but vitally important for anyone confronted with infidelity, of whatever type, in a relationship of investment.