How do you effectively confront a cheating husband – so you get his attention and maintain your integrity and pride?
That’s what I attempt to teach in my e-book, Break Free From the Affair.
Easier said than done, obviously. But some really get it.
Vickie sent this note. I want to share it with you.
See? It can be done. And it is powerful!
Here’s Vickie:
What I did to “hold my head up” to myself and in front of the kids, was to say to my cheating spouse, “You are hurting me, so compensate by doing something to make me feel better. You can continue live at home if you spend the money you would have spent on rent on five special trips for me – one with each child. Also, my mood can change at any time and I may abruptly ask you to go to the downstairs room or I may leave to go work out.” He gladly agreed. Having been pursuing women for two years – but only recently finding the right one to have sex with, he has finally put an ending date of nine months for his “needed” activities. If there weren’t an ending date that I really believe in, I couldn’t make this deal work.
The foregoing just let’s me hold up my head during his current activities, but after he is finished, he still owes me for having put tears, disturbed sleep, and strain into our family life. He is open to anything I suggest.
From,
Vickie
PS
I have gathered so much knowledge and comfort from your web offerings (frequently in the middle of the night) as well as your book, the relevant parts of which I have started to read to my “proving desirability” husband.
You may put my story on your blog — with pride! It might be nice to put “by Vickie,”