Often the capacity to survive and cope with infidelity means that one finds self tolerating a great deal – often much more than one desires.

I’m creating an e-book on how to deal with these tolerations. I’m also connecting what it is that a person tolerates with the 7 kinds of affairs I outline in “Break Free From the Affair.”

Here is the list of tolerations for one person coping with and attempting to survive infidelity:

— Tolerating the emptiness I feel.

— Tolerating his continued involvement in the hobby where he interacted with the other woman (she’s not there any more, but….).

— Tolerating the fear and doubt about his commitment to our marriage.

— Tolerating the continued use of his Blackberry which was his primary means of interacting with her, though I believe they’re done, I cringe when he’s using the Blackberry.

— Tolerating his touch. I don’t want to push him away or punish him in anyway, and I know that sexual fulfillment is important for both of us… Our sex life was great even during his affair, but now it’s an act of will for me to participate because I feel so used.

Thoughts? Please leave your comments below…. thanks..