How much should one put up with and tolerate when it comes the discovery of infidelity.

Here’s what one of my readers said:

NONE! I’m considered to be a very tolerant person. I make a lot of allowances for people & try to see things from their perspective & understand why they do what they do.

However, when the other woman forwarded his emails to me, attempting to break us up, I was so outraged that I told him I would tolerate NOTHING.

He dropped her like a lead balloon & begged me for another chance.

I had nothing to lose by waiting to see what he did.

My pain was agonizing & I remained angry for a long time but he hung in there & made his life an open book. He did a complete about face.

We went to therapy together for 2 1/2 years & today our relationship is better than ever.

Neither of us ever spoke to the other woman again & since she lives out of state, I think not knowing what happened since she dropped her bomb is her punishment. By the way, she was a friend of mine & the affair lasted 7 years.

Coach’s comments:

This worked for her. This type of firm all or nothing stance may NOT work for you, depending on the kind of affair facing you. It may not work for the “My Marriage Made Me Do it Affair” or the “I Fell out of Love and just love being in love” affair. You might find yourself alone.

Please leave comment below if so inclined.

For more information on the different kinds of affairs, go to: Break Free From the Affair.