Infidelity in and of itself presents a person with a tremendous amount of stress and tension. An inevitable question that arises out of this stress is, "Will this end in divorce?" This is frequently an unwanted thought since it means that many of your dreams and hopes are shattered. However, it is important to take some time to consider what might be involved in the divorce process. Use this article by one of my online colleagues as an introduction to the concept so you feel less afraid of the unknowns.
Healing From Infidelity
October 28, 2009 by 1 Comment
Healing from infidelity is a process. I ask my readers periodically what is important for them in the healing process.
In asking those who read “Break Free From the Affair” to respond, I received these comments:
>>>>I also appreciate the considerations about whether or not I want to save the relationship. There is definitely a common underlying tone between ALL the types of affairs that helped me understand the weaknesses of my spouse. The selfish behaviors, governed by my spouses internal issues helps me feel a little better about myself – I know her affair wasn’t my fault but now I have a better sense of “why”.
>>>>It helped with empathy for myself and my husband. It also made me realize that we both make our own choices and must suffer the consequences. The questions also helped me identify where I was stuck.
>>>>it helped clarify the type of affair my husband is having (seems like a mix of a few types) and gave some real examples of how to proceed, and not be stuck. It is also very clear now to me that I need to start working on myself, and understanding my needs.
>>>>It made me realize that the patterns and behaviors I am seeing and going through myself are normal and that I am not alone. It also gave me hope that my marriage can be saved.
>>>>Gained clarity as to what happened and why.Gained confidence and self-esteem.Assurance that I wasn’t crazy or responsible for the whole situation.
>>>>Gave an outline of what to expect, like a path.
Infidelity: What are the Patterns?
September 16, 2009 by Leave a Comment
Here’s a video on a question you SHOULD ask yourself when you discover the infidelity and move through the healing process: “What are the patterns I observe?”