Rebuild Your Life Whether You Can Rebuild Your Marriage or Not

by Infidelity Coach, Jeryl Swantack

Last blog I talked about the importance of having and holding onto our dreams, in spite of seemingly impossible obstacles and delays. I continued Dr. Bob’s discussion of our amazing new heroine and cultural icon on the world scene, Susan Boyle. I talked about how she never gave up her dream of becoming a singing star in spite of years of living in quiet anonymity while caring for her mother. She never let go of the picture in her mind of becoming a star through and with her magnificent voice. She sang daily in front of her mirror, likely using a hairbrush or something similar for a “microphone,” imagining herself to be singing to the entire world!! Now that is a powerful dream and a powerful image, energizing and giving life to that dream!

If you haven’t read books or seen films like The Secret or What the Bleep Do We Know or The Moses Code, I strongly suggest that you get to your nearest library or video store and get your hands on any one of these films to give you a taste of the power contained in our thoughts and dreams. There is great power for great shift and change in our lives in releasing our dreams to the world. Now IS the time to realize that, to make that real in your own life.

Where possible, use your creative power to rebuild your marriage. Dr. Bob provides precious and invaluable insights and suggestions about how to do this in his books, Break Free from the Affair and Marriage Makeover, both available on this site. If you have not yet done so, I encourage you to get and read these books so that you don’t stay stuck in old patterns of thinking about affairs and marriage.

Learn what you need to know to decide whether your marriage can be saved and rebuilt. Not all can, nor should be, no matter how much we might think we want to save them. Dr. Bob created, and I joined him on this site, because we want you, all of you, to live lives of purpose, of deep meaning and fulfillment.

We don’t want to see you trapped in relationships that keep you locked into patterns of relating that keep you from experiencing your dreams and all the fullness and richness of life.

I just read and listened to some fascinating information about another hot news item these days, one that often arouses fear rather than the tears of hope and joy elicited by the story of Susan Boyle. I am talking about the swine flu virus that has surfaced again and is causing the fear level of the general population worldwide to elevate.

The information I just came across reminds us that the best defense against fear or dis-ease of any kind, is A LIFE WELL LIVED! Your immune system is strongest when you are living well, meaning pursuing goals and dreams of health, wealth and abundance! Live the life of your dreams, and refuse to settle for less, and boost your physical, emotional, mental and spiritual immune systems!

En-joy life, in spite of its current circumstances, knowing that they are temporary and that they will change. See yourself as resilient and capable of adapting to your challenges, always moving in the direction of your goals and a life lived with great purpose. Each of us has a unique contribution to make on this planet. Constant movement in the direction of making that contribution will keep us strong and vital and able to weather the inevitable storms and squalls of life.

Fear makes us more vulnerable to the lower vibrating forms of life (including viruses). Living with purpose and meaning empowers us, on all levels, to take on challenges that serve to grow us and expand our lives. And THAT makes us very attractive, attracting into our lives more of that which we desire, whether it is love and deep connection, or money, health and prosperity.

Dr. Bob and I have lived and do live all that we teach. We would be honored to assist you through coaching to rebuild your life, and get moving again in the direction of your own personal dreams, so that you too might live a rich and fulfilling life, eager to see what is next around the corner in this magnificent adventure called life! Break free from the affair and live the life you most want to live!

The Affair – An Opportunity of a Lifetime

Whether you are in an affair, or have learned that your spouse or partner is or was in one, whether you know it or not, you have just been presented with a great gift. How can an affair, with all its confusing and painful attending thoughts and emotions, be a great gift?

An affair is often a trigger, a catalyst, for some of the most meaningful personal growth, change and expansion you will experience in your life because it creates an opportunity for you to look within and ask yourself some important questions. Questions like:

*How did I get here (in whatever role you play in the triangle of the affair)?

*What is it I am really looking for? Is this affair going to get me there? How?

*What is the cost to me of not changing? To those around me?

*Who am I really? What is that motivates me? What is behind my choices?

*Why am I here, right now, in this moment, and beyond this
moment?

*What is that I hold nearest and dearest to my heart, and soul?

*How can I be more of that?

It is through the asking of these deep questions that we discover some of the most profound truths about who we are and why we are showing up in our relationships the way we are. These truths then lead us to a life that has the opportunity for more and more unbounded joy, satisfaction and love. That is something I call a great gift!

If you want to explore some of these questions, and others, contact Jeryl and schedule some personal coaching sessions. She will help you dive into these questions and discover some really cool stuff about you and what you really want! Jeryl specializes in coaching and guiding those of you who want to make deep, personal and lasting changes in your life by asking and finding answers to the questions that touch our innermost being.

Give yourself the great gift contained in the affair and launch yourself into a new life, one rich with adventure, experience and personal enlightenment.