Relationship Communication: Being Able to Say What You Really Mean

What can you do create and develop a better relationship communication with your spouse?

Communication is a very important part in any relationship, and good communication requires that the things you are saying will be reflected in the things you are doing. When you are saying something but your actions are showing different, your partner will begin to doubt you and question whether or not to believe what you are saying.

A very common example of relationship communication that turns negative is when you go out for dinner. Most of the time, even when you don’t really want to go out, you act like you do because you feel like you should or because you don’t want to disappoint your spouse.

Your words say that you’re excited and ready for a night out, but your actions say that going out is the last thing you want to do, and that all you really want to do is go to bed and sleep. Which of the messages you’re sending out will your partner focus on? Although it may be something very trivial, it still has an impact on your relationship communication and in partner’s trust in you.

So rather than acting as if you are interested in doing something when you’re actually not, it’s better if you just say that you don’t want to do it. Initiate good relationship communication with your partner and let him or her know that you know how important it is for you to spend time together and ask if, instead of going out, you can stay in instead or do something else.

Let your partner be aware of what you are feeling and why you are feeling that way so that he or she would not be confused or suspicious of why you don’t have interest in something that you always do together. This creates a better relationship communication and generates trust in each other.


  1. It is good to let your partner know how and why you are feeling the way you feel. This is a must in good relationship. I don’t see it as generating trust. To let someone know how you feel and why the trust has to be there already. One wouldn’t share that unless there is trust there to initiate it.

    It is good to have someone in your life to where you can really be yourself with and stay loved.

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