Surviving marital infidelity and extramarital affairs means you make shifts that move you away from that which doesn’t work and causes pain to that which works for you and your relationship and creates hope and positive feelings.
I’ve taken some responses from those who have used my E-course, “Killer Mistakes that Prolong the Affair and Your Agony,” and have made significant shifts to that enable them to survive the infidelity.
Here’s the question I ask:
1. How has this E-course helped you change the way you feel, think and act as you face infidelity. Give examples, if you can.
Used a powerful skill:
Honestly what I got out of the book was ” Charging neutral”. That has helped when I see my husband getting frustrated and angry!
gave me strategies that help me to move faster and start working on myself instead of trying to fix everything.
Was able to move on from a destructive relationship:
For the first time in 23yrs of my so called marriage , i have filed for divorce and know that i made the right decision.i feel good about myself and know what i want from a marriage.I feel i`m in control of my life and the e-course just pointed out all the mistakes i made ,by trying to fix and work on my marriage.It is tiring and been dealing with affairs since the start of my marriage.I now know i cannot change my husband who refuses to go for help,thinking providing is all he must do in the marriage.
Inner Strength:
This course had made me stronger
Realized I’m not alone:
that im not alone, that im not crazy, and that all the “common sense” responses i have are just not going to work.
It has helped to clarify things and let me know that what I’m going through , so many others are to. It helps to know that I’m not alone
It’s his problem:
I have realized that the affair was HIS problem not mine. No matter how I tried to pry before He always said HE was the problem not me. Now I understand he might be telling the truth and it took a load off my chest.