I’ve been busy collating from a survey on emotional affairs (Affair #4: “I Fell out of Love…and just love being in love”) It’s taken a chunk of my time going over the literally hundreds of responses I received. But, that is great!
Where do Emotional Affairs typically begin?
Surprise, surprise. The work place comes out as number one, by a large margin.
I thought there was a fairly large group who connected with that old flame. And, that can be powerful – lot of unfinished adolescent business.
Check this out:
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Where Emotional Affairs Begin
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Place/With Whom
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Percentage of total Emotional Affairs (Research by Dr. Huizenga)
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| In the workplace: co-worker, subordinate, boss | 45.2% |
| Frequented place: bar, restaurant, coffee shop, store, etc. | 12.3% |
| Common activity: Gym (workout), school, social or organizational activities, Classes, Sports, volunteer work | 12.3% |
| Old friend, classmate, old flame | 9.5% |
| Business travel, conferences, events | 8.3% |
| Internet, chat rooms | 7.5% |
| Introduced by a mutual friend | 6.7% |
| Neighbor | 2.0% |
| Introduced by relative | 1.6% |
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Helper relationship (rescue the damsel, out on his luck man) |
1.6% |
I would like some feed back on how to deal with the affair that happened at his work and they still work together. He is her boss. How do I deal with him going off to work with her every day. He said nothing happened they didn’t have sex. He bought her some gifts when they were on a business trip, dinners out, drinks, bracelet, dress …..he felt sorry for her because her boyfriend is a drunk. help me deal with this. Thanks
My wife has been in chat rooms. Accussed me me of have an affair but found out that she had one last year with a co-worker. Say That I do not spend time with her. State he has left the country but still spend alot of time at work and getting home 4-5 hour later, Does not want to go help what can I do help save my married?
My husbands emotional affair and one time sex began at work. He is a spine surgeon, she a spine representative. It does get better, it’s been almost 2 years for us now and we are doing wonderful. I highly recommend counseling and individual too. We got our counseling at our church with the pastor and his wife, very helpful and saved our marriage. Love Kym
I think the emotional affair is the worst…how can I ever get over this? This person became more important than me and my child. It haunt me to think that he thought of someone else that way he should be thing of me. He wanted to leave me for her! Then contined on maintaining contact with her for years…all along swearing he wasn’t talking to her. How do I know that he is being truthful and honest? He says he has stopped….
The response from Kym was helpful…give me hope…