Yes, You can survive infidelity. And, you can use your infidelity crisis as a springboard for change and growth – becoming who you truly are.

Here are comments from someone on the journey:

1. What kind of affair faced you?

I HAVE CHEATED ON MY HUSBAND AND HE HAS CHEATED ON ME SO I GUESS IT IS GETTING BACK AT EACH OTHER.

2. What are 2-3 resources that helped you survive and cope with the infidelity?

1. READING YOUR BOOKS AND OTHER RELATED BOOKS ON RESTORATION OF MARRIAGES.
2. HAVING STRONG SPIRITUAL PEOPLE AROUND ME TO HELP ME AND GUIDE ME.
3. BECOMING AWARE THAT I NEEDED TO TAKE CARE OF MYSELF FIRST AND BECOMING THE BEST ME I CAN BE. PHYSICALLY AND MENTALLY.

3. Describe 2-3 break-through moments or events that helped you see the affair from a different perspective, provided healing or helped make a decision?

1. READING YOUR BOOKS HAS HELPED ME BEGIN TO LOOK AS TO WHAT I WANTED OUT OF LIFE AND WHAT KIND OF LIFE I WANTED IN MY FUTURE. I BECAME AWARE AFTER I FILED FOR DIVORCE THAT I DID NOT WANT A DIVORCE BUT I NEEDED TO SEEK TO RENEW A BETTER RELATIONSHIP WITH MY HUSBAND OF 18 YEARS. WE WERE BOTH HURTING EACH OTHER AND DOING THE BLAME GAME. I REALIZED THAT ONE OF US HAD TO EXTEND A HAND I I CHOOSE TO DO SUCH. IT IS NOT QUITE THERE BUT I HAVE A VISION OF US BECOMING CLOSER IN TIME. I KNOW THAT IT WILL NOT BE A QUICK DEAL BUT I AM WILLING TO DO THE HARD WORK TO MAKE IT WORK FOR US.

4. What have you learned about yourself as a result of the infidelity?

THAT I NEEDED TO TRUST MY HUSBAND MORE AND NOT DECIDE AND CHOOSE WHAT INFORMATION IS IMPORTANT FOR HIM TO KNOW. I HID WHAT WAS REALLY HAPPENING TO ME INSTEAD OF LETTING HIM KNOW THE TRUTH. I ALSO SEE THE NEED FOR OPEN COMMUNICATION AND BECOMING TRANSPARENT. THAT I SHOULD NOT JUMP TO ASSUMPTIONS BECAUSE THERE ARE ALWAYS THREE SIDES TO SOMETHING. MY SIDE HIS SIDE AND THE TRUTH. THE TRUTH WILL ONLY COME OUT WITH OPEN COMMUNICATION

5. What have you to offer others who experience infidelity?

THAT THEY ARE NOT ALONE. THAT WE ALL HAVE A HUMAN SIDE TO US. WE CANNOT KEEP BLAMING OURSELVES OR OTHERS BUT TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR OUR PART AND CHEATING IS NEVER THE WAY TO DEAL WITH ISSUES.WE ALL HAVE CHOICES BUT SOMETIMES WE MAKE BAD CHOICES BUT IT DOES NOT MAKE US A BAD PERSON JUST BAD CHOICES AT SOME POINT IN OUR LIFE. WE NEED TO LEARN TO KNOW WHAT WE WANT BECAUSE IF WE DO NOT KNOW WHAT WE WANT WE WILL ACCEPT ANYTHING ANYONE GIVE US.