Bumping into infidelity is often like being run over by a truck, or tank or anything that is huge and overwhelming.

At least, that is what most people say who visit this site and my other main site: Break Free From the Affair.

I did a poll recently showing what feeling most experience once they encounter the infidelity in their marriage or relationship.

This is a progressive scale, i.e. as healing takes place one moves “down” the ladder, so to speak, with increasing comfort and better feelings and thoughts at each level.

Here’s the question I asked:

Upon the discovery of your spouses/partners infidelity, where did you predominately enter on the 8 paths scale?

>>Depression, Victimization, Frozen, Fear -51.7%

>>Guilt, Responsibility, Self Blame – 6.9%

>>Jealousy, Rage, Anger, Resentment – 32.8%

>>Worry, Doubt, Confusion – 5.2%

>>Overwhelm, Impatience, Frustration – 3.4%

>>Acceptance, Patience, Boredom – 0%

>>Hopeful, Optimistic, Positive Thoughts – 0%

>>Happy, Eager, Joy – 0%