Here’s another case study of how a woman facing infidelity and confronting her cheating husband used “Charging Neutral” to take control of her circumstances and enhance movement toward resolution:

1. Tell me your story. How have you used “Charging Neutral” and tell me exactly what happened?

I told him he had to leave and enforced it. I told him I would not tolerate infidelity and an extramarital affair. I told him to make sure he used protection with his mistress unless he wanted to pay for an unexpected child. I told him, all in a calm and strong voice, that he had six months to figure out his “confusion,” but that I would always be his friend because of our children. I sent him reasonable apartments to rent. I told him therapy could help him decide and that I too was going. I joined a gym, got busy with friends and night classes, and took some weekends away to visit friends. I did not always answer his call or be at home when he came to pick up belongings, but explained it was because I was too angry to see him. He was begging to come back home within three weeks. It was over within two months. The times I “charged neutral” were 100 times more effective than the times I lost control in changing our situation. And it made me feel so much better, more in control, of my life and the devastating situation I was in.