So, you’ve discovered your partner or spouse is having an affair?
And, if you are like most, you are in pain and find it difficult to function from day to day, hour to hour.
You wonder how you will survive and cope.
You wonder IF you will survive.
Over the years working with many many couples and individuals, I’ve seen patterns and themes. There is a predictable sequence of steps that most go through as they recover from infidelity.
This video outlines those steps and also gives research on the stage or step where most enter the recovery process.
If one accepts someone after an affair aren’t you lowering your expectations on how you allow people to treat you? I agree with your 8 steps as I experienced them not even knowing it. Fortunately for me, due to a/ not knowing who or if for sure there was an affair for 4 years as my spouse was totally disabled I had nowhere for the rage and anger to be expressed to. Now confirming 4 years later, I don’t even have the tears. Anger yes; rage no. Although I want to get passed this I feel that if I allow this man back in to my life I would somehow be hurting myself and lowering how I allow people to treat me. You don’t discuss this in your 8 steps. do you have other sites to follow?
Thanks.
ps – I would also love to know what makes people think that it is okay to seduce married men. I can’t even imagine what type of values and morals that these women have. My first thought is that someone must have really messed them up for them to do that to another’s family.
My husband had an affair with a girls 30 yrs his junior. She had been sexually abused as a preteen. She was/is so messed up that she got engaged 2 weeks afer I confronted them to the man her 3rd husband to be. SO you see it is all crazy