Developing the capacity and freedom to make effective decisions based upon what best fits your standards and is best for you and your family is an important step in recovery.
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>My husband is very cunning. He wants this affair but is buying time until he is sure as it is only 5 months. He is talking calmly back to me (albeit lies) whereas before he wouldn’t even discuss issues. Thank you so much for your insight. It has given me hope for myself.
>I identified my partner in two of your profiles. Having done that I questioned whether I wanted more of the same or to move on to a happier me. Your book helped me come to terms with my insecurities, made me ask myself questions that I had previously not even thought of. I became calmer and stronger and very lucid.
>Break Free from the Affair really helped a bunch. She was blaming me for being over-controlling. She was blaming me for everything. It really hurt a bunch. I am not a terrible person, I will grow from this. She is having a “I fell out of love” emotional phone affair with an old boyfriend. I ask her if it could last. Seems like she is having second thoughts now. Thanks, Jeff
>I’ve started reading the book and I’m basically unable to move beyond the pages of the type#2 affair. It describes him perfectly and you have also made me aware of so many other things that subconsciously I was aware of but did not really know their significance and some I’ve mentioned to him during my times of being frustrated that our relationship is not growing but worsening. The picture is much clearer
now. Harriet
>I’ve been very pleased and even recommended it to a friend who is in an affair. It really opened my eyes and I’m so glad I found it. This was an excellent resource for me and I’m still in the early stages of applying your methods but I like the results thus far. Janet
How does one deal with a sex addict who is denial, refuses help and thinks whatever he does is his ‘private’ affair. The marriage should have nothing to do with his addiction.