I asked my Newsletter readers to list the top 5 things they tolerate or put up with as they face infidelity.

Writing down, putting a name on your turmoil and fears often is a beginning step in creating emotional distance from the pain and then initiating the process of eliminating those tolerations and beginning the infidelity healing journey.

Here are some responses to the question:

>>>>>secret ‘business’ relationship which is not only business; betrayal; insensitivity

>>>>>hiding the mobile phone late home seeing the guilt on his face when he comes home and has spoken to her making excuses to see her

>>>>>her leaving the house whenever she wants Locked cell phone Unwilling to talk Denial No sex

>>>>>1. I am tolerating him continuing to talk to his women he’s had past affairs with. One he emails and the second he continues to work with at his place of employement. 2. Dishonesty. 3. His lack of being able to be sincere or showing his ability to come across as remorseful. 4. Conversations that hurt my self-esteem that are mean or hurtful. 5. Staying in a relationship based on what has or I feel has become stagnant or detached and I simply live day to day in a life that seemingly has little if no meaning.

>>>>>lying, sex with others, cell phone, living in two separate states