Very frequently, and I mean frequently, when confronted with the infidelity of a cheating spouse, the offended spouse undertakes a knee-jerk reaction – emerging from the incredible pain and fear – and begins his/her attempts to intervene, stop the affair and perhaps begins working toward saving the marriage.

Frequently these efforts, although well intentioned, bring about the opposite of what s/he hopes will happen.

That’s why I created a free E-course: 7 Killer Mistakes that Prolong the Affair and Your Misery.

Read what some say about this E-course:

The 7 Killer Mistakes has given me some useful hints and actual words to use on the various strategies.

(Your e-course) helped me do a 180.

Your suggestions bring alot of clarity to my situation.

The e-course has made me realize at times (alot of times!) that I am NOT going crazy over all this mess.

The course has given me “tools” to be able to get through this difficult time. With this course I have been able to refer back to the printed material when I am in the fall back position.

It has been helpful to receive stuff regularly, and simply have things drop in my box that confirm the feelings I’m going through – and somehow validate how intensely painful and hurtful this process is. I especially valued the material on emotional affairs and the the piece about getting out of the game.

7 killer Mistakes has helped tremendously. I have been able to relay thoughts to my husband and after having discussions he realizes that he went into this with eyes wide open.

This E-course has helped me in realizing that my husband’s affair was not MY fault. It helped me in understanding what NOT to do and how to mind MYSELF. I only wish I had found this course earlier, when I had just found out about the affair.

When I want to do or say something that you have suggested not doing, I go over your material to stop myself.

…Cleared thoughts, given food for thought and some perspective

It has helped to look at the situation practically and with courage.

The 7 Killer Mistakes provided me a compass/direction so that I could take the first step in trying to recover and save my marriage.

Dr. Huizenga, I am finding your E-course very helpful. You are relating to my life right now. You are helping me in ways of making myself emotionally strong to deal with my husbands affair.

At least now when I think about the incident, I don’t get the headaches as before, I have come to terms with the whole issue.

Have you signed up for the E-course? Make sure you do. top left corner.