One looks for 3 movements when dealing with adultery:

1. In dealing with adultery the moments of pain, confusion and downright fear, over time, becomes less intense. When you as an individual or you as a couple are stuck in that emotional mire of infidelity blame and pain, each time you bump into it you feel a slight measure of relief.

2. In dealing with adultery, the times that you face the anger, guilt and infidelity blame becomes spaced out over time. Those awful moments don’t happen as often.

3. In dealing with adultery, you learn new personal and relational skills that take enable you to move through the blame, anger and guilt of infidelity more quickly.

Please note this scenario:

I had to accept (and did) the fact the he was not willing to to move from the past to the future and once I eliminated him from my future and began to live life again without him, it struck a nerve and made him face the realization that the past was eating him alive. For whatever reason he chose to hold on to the anger and/or guilt from the past not a healthy choice. What we both did to each other is inconceivable and broke every marriage vow and I know of no one that has overcome and have made a come back. It’s been 6 long years, and he has finally gotten past it. He still has bouts of anger, regret, and guilt but through communication we are able to talk through it and help ease each others pain. With time, these episodes are becoming increasing less.