Confronting the Other Woman: Protect those Children

The scenario below describes the despicable behavior of the other woman contacing the children of the cheating husband and sharing intimate information with them.

This behavior displays the arrogance, insensitivity and pathology of the other person. (Strong feelings and opinions here. Playing affair games within the triangle of wounded spouse, cheating husband and other woman is predictable and understandable, to a degree, but engaging the children crosses some powerful boundaries.)

Read how the wounded spouse handles this:

1. What was your purpose for confronting the OP and what did you say/do?

The other woman contacted my 2 teenage daughters and told them everything, told them that thier father didn’t love me anymore, told them all the lies that my husband told her to make what he was doing okay. Told my children that I had been with other men. etc. When I did confront her I charged neutral and she told me all the dirty detail. Which I don’t know what is true or not.

2. What happened? What was the outcome?

Because I was cool when I spoke with her, she seemed to think I was her best friend. After I got enough info from her, I told I her she could have him and that I wasn’t interested in talking to her or my spouse again. That was over 2 months ago and I have no desire to speak with her. I don’t know if my spouse still sees her as he is living with his mother right now. He is very mixed up and cries every time we talk. He still hasn’t come clean and I have no intention of trying to work it out until he does. He says he wants his family back, but doesn’t know how to do it. Because my daughters were contacted by the op, they are bitter.

3. If you were to do it again, would you do it differently? What did you learn?

I wouldn’t have done it differently, because the timing was right. I got some information from her that I wasn’t getting from my spouse, I learned that he was lying to the op. as much as he was lying to me. It gave me that chance to tell her not to involve my daughters. and made realize that she was a loser.