This case study illustrates the importance of what I call charging neutral. The bottom line: place yourself in a position in which you, with an inner calm and strength, can state your position and concerns, your version of the truth, with clarity. … [Continue reading]
An Example of the “I Need to Prove My Desirability Affair”
May 19, 2009 by 1 Comment
The "I Need to Prove My Desirability Affair" can take many twists and turns. The affair often occurs in early 40s when the old ways of coping with the pain and shame break down or lose their grip over a person. The Affair defies reason. It … [Continue reading]
Needing a Script to Confront the Other Woman
May 18, 2009 by Leave a Comment
Confronting the other woman as a reaction, as an attempt to vent one's hostility, to flail at the other woman usually does not work. You may feel better, empowered, as some say, but to get a desired, targeted response is problematic. Creating … [Continue reading]